Dear Know-It-All Mother

 (Disclaimer: Bad language and some opinions you may not like. And I don't care.)

 

 

 

Dear Know-It-All Mother,

 

     Before I began my tirade, let me say that this isn't directed at any specific "group" of mothers- not breastfeeding, bottle feeding, crunchy, non-crunchy... none.

It is directed at those mothers out there who don't know when to shut the fuck up. The ones who have an opinion for everything. The ones who think they are ALWAYS right.

 

Shut the fuck up. Seriously.

 

Yesterday, a friend and I were discussing the use of Pediasure for our girls in order to help them gain weight. We both have extremely petite girls, who are very picky about food. Some dumb bitch decides to list every single INGREDIENT in Pediasure and tell us we were feeding our children garbage. WHAT THE FUCK? Go to hell, bitch. I do not appreciate your disrespectful comments about my parenting. You have no idea what it feels like to worry about your child having eating issues.

 

Then today... a mother asked (on a different thread) for advice on dealing with her son's bad behavior. I jokingly mentioned "whipping his ass"- I quickly stated that I was just joking, but that I do spank my child when she is deserving. It works for us and she rarely gets spanking anymore because she corrects her behavior. Another dumb bitch decides to spout off: "spankings cause fear and anxiety in children. It's scientifically proven."

 

First of all, I don't give a fuck what science says. Science does not apply to ALL children. Otherwise, those same scientists who say that babies who breastfeed too long will have social issues would be saying that every breastfed child struggles socially- complete nonsense. By the way, one of worst behaved children I have ever met lives here in RH. He gets absolutely NO discipline- his mother laughs awkwardly and makes jokes about it.... She even laughed when telling us the story of how her 2 year old STABBED her BABY in the head with a fork.

 

Ummm, my child has never tried to stab the baby....

 

Fuck off. My kid, my way.

 

As for all the mothers out there that feel the need to hassle me about formula feeding, cry it out, and giving my baby gatorade when she is dehydrated, please go fuck yourself.

 

Mind your business. Go take care of your own child.

 

I am so sick of these people who insist on giving their opinion or striking down other ways of parenting. So you can take my FUCK YOUS and put them in your pipe and smoke it!

 

Happy Tuesday :-)

 

 



2012

WOWZA... 2012....

 

I can't believe that 2012 is over. It was such a challenging year for our family and for myself personally.

 

First off, if you are still following my blog, bless you. I haven't been quite the active blogger since LAST DECEMBER (2011), when I found out I was pregnant with my beloved Emily James. I lost the blogging bug and starting focusing on other things going on in my life.

 

A lot has happened this year and I just want to write out a few of the important events, so I can come back and read it one day.

 

This year...

 

-we lived in Oklahoma until the end of August- hottest summer of my life

 

-March 26th- we find out we are having another girl! Emily James!

 

-I gave birth to Emily James on August 14 at 9:13 am. The absolute most amazing moment of my life (along with the birth of Leighton in 2010)

 

 

-Emily was hospitalized with a fever at 3 weeks old

 

-We moved to Georgia September 10th

 

-David left for a 22 day training in Kentucky on September 15

 

-First ER trip with both girls and no husband on September 28th- so scary! Leighton DID NOT have an appendicitus... just a tummy ache :-)

 

-David came home on October 6th

 

-My best friend, high school sweetheart, prom date- Aaron was tragically killed on October 9th- 1 day before his 30th birthday

 

-David was supposed to deploy on October 29

 

-Impromptu trip to Idaho on October 26 to see David's dad

 

-We lost our beloved Grandpa Bowers on November 14th to pancreatic cancer-- I spoke about his diagnosis in THIS post

 

-Trip to Texas for 2 weeks (Nov 16-30) and yes, this included a 3 day trip to Idaho from Texas for the funeral (I traveled alone with Emily)

 

-David's mom visited for a week in December

 

-We hosted our first holiday and had Christmas in Savannah

 

 

I think that the months of August through December have been some of the most difficult months of my life. Having a brand new baby 10 days before you move is grueling. Not to mention, moving away from your entire family and across the country. It was sooooo hard.

 

I have been very lucky to meet some wonderful people here in Georgia. I have also been very lucky that David has not deployed. I think that since David and I (and our girls) can got through the past 6 months and came out alive, we can conquer anything!

 

Happy 2013 to you all!



RIP

My sweet, dear friend, Aaron, was tragically killed last week. He was my prom date, best friend, high school sweetheart...

Love you, Aaron.




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Almost there!

I can't believe it.

 

 

We have almost finished these three weeks without David. I know it doesn't seem like a lot, especially when a typical deployment is 9-15 months.

 

Unfortunately, David is deploying in November.

 

Fortunately, it is only for 30 days. That is why we chose to come to Georgia and David chose to be assessed for the 160th. Short deployments.

 

Some of the trials we have experienced in the past 3 weeks:

 

-no furniture for a week

-hole in the wall caused by the movers

-internet was down

-couch stuck downstairs

-bed put together incorrectly

-Emily's reflux issues

-LEIGHTON in the ER with a possible appendicitus

 

I feel like I need to stay inside for the next 48-60 hours just to make sure nothing happens.

 

I have found that this time away from David has taught me a lot about what I am capable of as a mother. I have learned how to be on my own. Yes, I did have my mom's best friend, my mom, and my best friend (Alexis) here for visits... but I did have over a week of time with just my girls.

 

A small triumph today: made it to the mall, bought jeans, took Leighton to play, and went to lunch- all by myself with the girls.

 

I'm getting the hang of this...

 

Maybe it's time for another :-P

 

 



I am not cut out for military life

I love my husband. Unconditionally. And we have been incredibly LUCKY.

 

David is a Captain in the U.S. Army.

 

We have NEVER done a deployment. The only deployments we have "done" included one where David was the Rear D i.e. stays behind to run the unit from home... and he didn't deploy with the unit in Oklahoma, because he was already property of the 160th in Georgia.

 

That is almost unheard of for a military family to go almost 6 years with no deployment.

 

We just moved to Georgia. Actually, we just got to our house a week ago... no furniture until Tuesday, September 18. No sense of being "settled" yet...

 

I just had our second daughter, Emily James, 4.5 weeks ago...

 

So we had a baby... our house was packed 10 days later (in OK).... our baby went back to the hospital 10 days later and stayed for 2 days... husband drove across country... 2 flat tires and a broken axel... and finally... our whole family drove to Richmond Hill, Georgia on Friday, September 7.

 

Phew... that is a lot.

 

And now... David has left to train for 3 weeks in KY. And I am BESIDE myself. Trying to adjust to a new place, home, town... and now adjusting to TWO kids... alone

 

If you have a couple minutes, please shoot me some good thoughts, a prayer, anything... I am just struggling tonight. And I would appreciate it.

 

3 weeks is nothing in military time... I am not made for this life.... but I am going to try my very best, because my husband means EVERYTHING to me.

 

I chose this life. And I choose my husband.

 

A few pics of our family and precious new angel

(photography by Front Porch Photography by Ashley)

 

 

Emily James Bowers

I'm sure that, by now, you all know that our precious baby girl was born!

 

Emily James Bowers

7lbs 7oz 19 3/4 inches

August 14, 2012 @ 9:13 am via c-section

 

Hospital shoot by Front Porch Photography by Ashley

 

 

To be short and sweet, I had a very easy, planned c section. I stayed in the hospital for 3 nights and loved every minute of it!

 

I will post more later with more pictures!!

 

We are SO blessed. This sweet baby makes me 10 more just like her! I am so grateful!



Missiko and the miracle blow dryer...

For someone who tries anything and everything to make their hair straight, smooth, and frizz-free, I was shocked that I had never even heard of Missiko when they contacted me a few weeks ago.

 I was contacted by a representative from Missiko asking if I wanted to review their Hana Air Professional Blow Dryer. I was a little skeptical at first, because I had been contacted in the past by different companies to do reviews and they all seemed like scams. Why me? Why my blog? I only have this many followers, etc....

After asking a series of questions, I was convinced this was a genuine offer and figured, why the heck not?

And boy am I glad I did...

First off, Missiko sent their awesome Hana Premiere Professional Blow Dryer to me within a week. I was expecting to just receive a blow dryer and test it out... but, no.... All of this came with the dryer!

Awesome HANAair Premiere Blow Dryer

Sorry for the pitiful photography, but you can clearly see that I was spoiled by Missiko. Not only did the blow dryer arrive, but also, gloss shine, a hair brush, an adorable stuffed monkey, nail files- just to name a few.

Leighton loved the monkey!

I have very thick, curly, coarse hair... I have always had to blow dry it straight and use a flat iron. I have had 5 Brazilian Blowouts in 2 years, and use everything under the sun to control my frizz.

The average time it takes me to blow dry my hair with a regular Conair dryer is about 20 minutes...

Here is my hair before using the Hana Premiere Blow Dryer:

Forgive my swollen face (39 weeks pregnant)... but my hair is obviously HELLA curly!

With the Hana Premiere BD, it only took me FIVE minutes to blow dry my hair!

After drying, I only had to run my flat iron over it it in a few places and this was the result:

I'd say that it worked pretty well.


I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to use and review this product and would highly recommend it! It has several settings, including a COOL setting that is a MUST for me- especially as big as I am at the time!

The only downfall I can say about the blow dryer is the price, but the price is right for what you are getting.

What kind of blow dryer do you use?
What is your hair type?

*I was not compensated monetarily for this review, but I was given the product to keep. All statements are my honest opinions.

Almost time!!!! And some prayer requests!

The countdown is officially on! We have less than a week until the arrival our precious Emily James and I am getting really excited and really nervous.

If you want to read my Leighton's birth story, knock yourself out!

It was very traumatic and difficult... so I am grateful that this birth is a PLANNED surgery and that I know what to expect this time.

Here I am at 35, 36, 37, and 38 weeks... doesn't look like much change, haha! Maybe a little growth between 35 and 36 weeks.

A few fun facts:

-I've gained 27 lbs this time, as opposed to 50 with Leighton- proud of myself!

-I have been craving Whataburger taquitos, Laffy Taffy candy, pineapple, Frosted Flakes, beer bread, orange juice, and chicken fettucine alfredo

-Leighton weighed 7 lbs 9 oz and the doc thinks Emily will be about 7 lbs 8 oz

-I had a case of false labor last Thursday- It. FELT. REAL.

-After much thought and consideration, David and I have decided that we will probably have just one more baby :-)

-The moving truck from the Army packs our house 10 days after I am released from the hospital- eek!

My surgery is currently scheduled for August 14. We check into the hospital at 6 am and the doctor told me I should be on the table by 8 am!

Please, if you have any extra time for prayers, lift up our family at this time. I am SO nervous.

My personal prayer is that Emily James will be born healthy and happy... that I will have a smooth recovery... that our move to Georgia will be low-stress...

One thing that has been on my heart lately (well she always is but more than usual) is my precious Leighton.

Leighton has been having a very rough time this past week. Ever since her dad came home on leave, she has noticed that things are very different- dad is home all the time, our house is slowly filling up with boxes, her room is becoming more and more bare... etc.

She cries at the drop of a hat. Small things send her into a down spiral.

All we can do is love her, comfort her, and try to keep her schedule as normal as possible.

Please pray for Leighton to have a positive transition; we just want our happy little girl back.

Happy Wednesday



Holy hell... It's OK

I hardly ever blog anymore! AHH! And I never link up... so I figured, why not participate in my favorite link up of all time just for the sake of blogging?

Happy First Anniversary to

 It's OK... ...to take a blog break for no reason... or because you have nothing to talk about.... ...to be very nervous about having a baby, packing up a house, and moving across the country in a matter of 2 weeks... ...to be proud that I have only gained 25 lbs this pregnancy as opposed to 50 last time!!! ...to take sides in Twitter/blog battles because I ain't no fence rider...  ...to laugh when I hear that other people finally figure out who the weirdos/crazies are in blog world...  ...to spend over $100 on a new ERGObaby carrier just because I wanted one... ...to think that I am entitled to a bigger, better car because I am giving birth and need more space for 2 littles... 2012 Toyota Sequoia is mine... (I only kid about this- my husband hadn't bought himself a new car since 2001) ...to refuse to go outside these days... ...to get annoyed when fellow mommies give me a hard time because I don't like the heat- stfu, it's hot... ...to be a little irritated that I spent a lot of $$ on a baby gift for a friend who then slighted me in return...  ...to be a little sad that we are moving- I really like my friends here and hope I make just as many in Savannah... ...to be disappointed that one of my best friends can't commit to coming to see me after I have the baby OR come say bye when we move....  What's OK with you??  

My opinion on the Magic Mike controversy

What controversy?

LOL.

Okay, so first let me say that I have the utmost respect for people who don't want to see Magic Mike. I understand that in some relationships/religions/personal convictions, seeing this movie is disrespectful.

But... here is where I get a little... bitchy.

I am pretty annoyed with all the "holier than thou" people judging those of us who have no problem seeing a harmless, stripper movie.

It's one thing to say that it isn't in your interest to see the movie. But calling other people out? Ummm MYOB.

Some tweets/comments I have seen regarding Magic Mike include:

"Married women who see Magic Mike are disrespectful to their husbands."

"I have my own Magic Mike at home!" ...pfft... ok.

"If you have to see MM to get turned on, then something must be wrong in your marriage."

The last comment really irked me. So.... just because I want to go out for a girls' night to see a movie with Channing Tatum and some other hotties, then I must be wanting to replace my husband or leave him? And if you think you have your own Magic Mike at home, more power to ya! I would love for my husband to learn to do the Snake, because that was awesome!

Here's what I have to say to all the ladies who are judging those of us who saw the movie:

Get over yourself. You love God? Then don't judge us, because He is the only one whose judgment counts. If your husband doesn't want you to see the movie, I respect your decision. My husband did not give a rip- in fact, he encouraged me to have a night out with my friends, where I could relax and laugh, without thinking about diaper bags and bed time.

BTW... it was a fantastic night with my friends... it was raining men....

I think I need to take a step back from social media, not because I think anyone is doing anything wrong, but because...

at 35 weeks pregnant, I get irked SO easily... not even upset, but PISSED.

One of my fav bloggers, Neely, said it best:

 "You need a cocktail!"

Amen...

Bowers out.